I love to check in with my couples during the wedding planning process and ask them how their engagements have been, and, interestingly, they almost always express a feeling of bittersweetness about being engaged. I often hear sentiments like, “It’s been good, but we just want to get married and have the wedding behind us.” This is a feeling that I know all too well! It is precisely why I only had a 3 month engagement, but that’s a story for another day 😉
Engagement truly is a season of being in between, which can be difficult for many couples. The adrenaline of the proposal has worn off and the anticipation of the wedding day often gets overshadowed by the tediousness of wedding planning, making it difficult for many couples to truly enjoy their engagements. So today I want to share a few pieces of wisdom that I have gathered from my own experience and those of couples I serve to help you cherish the time leading up to your wedding!
Set boundaries around wedding planning
It is no secret that wedding planning has a way of taking up all of an engaged couple’s time and energy. After all, weddings are a huge deal! They require lots of little details to fall into place according to the couple’s unique vision. However, it is so important to set boundaries around how much time and energy you give to wedding planning. This could look like only allowing yourself to scroll Pinterest for a certain amount of time each day or letting friends and family know if you would like a break from discussing wedding details. Only you know what you need, so take some time to sit down and figure out what exactly is taking the most of your energy and what kinds of boundaries you may need in order to take that energy back.
Schedule regular date nights
You have heard that it is important to keep dating each other after you are married, and this goes for your engagement as well. Continue to plan regular date nights to disconnect from the world and connect with each other during your engagement. Not only will this help you to refocus on what really matters in your engagement and wedding (each other), but will help you to look back on your engagement session with fond memories of something other than wedding planning. But here’s the important part- this is your chance to put one of the boundaries we just discussed into action! Make sure that these date nights aren’t about discussing wedding-related things! You want these dates to be about preparing for your marriage, not your wedding.
Write letters to each other
One of my recent couples wrote letters to one another during their engagement and I truly think it is one of the best things you can do during your engagement. During your engagement, it can be difficult to find the time or words to let each other know how you are really feeling leading up to the wedding. Writing letters to one another is a great way to keep checking in on yourself and your partner, and not to mention it will leave you with an extremely meaningful collection of keepsakes from your engagement! I recommend storing these in a special binder or keepsake box because they will end up being some of your most treasured possessions.
If you are engaged, I hope that these tips will help this time leading up to your wedding day to be a time that you look back on with fond memories! If you are not engaged but know someone who is, share this post with them!